2. Managing stress by overcoming feelings of guilt

Coaching

Many people feel guilty about certain events, happenings or circumstances in their lives.

Have you ever wondered what guilty feelings actually are? Consider this.

                                                    Beliefs + Action = Guilt

Here are some examples of the sources of guilt and examples of potentially of balancing acts.

You can only feel guilty if you have a certain belief and take a certain action that makes the belief true. For example.

• Belief: should have dinner with family every night.
• Action: work late, missed dinner
• Result: guilt

The belief that you should have dinner with your family combined with the action of working late produces the guilt.

The way to overcome guilt is to change your beliefs and/or your actions. Reconsider the above example with a revised belief.

• New belief: want to eat dinner with your family most nights
• Existing action: worked late, missed dinner
• Result: no guilt

Alternatively, you could change your action.

• Existing belief: should have dinner with family every night.
• New action: go home for dinner and then go back to work.
• Result: no guilt

Mentoring

Indicate a situation where you have guilt. Hint: guilty feelings often start with "I should" statements:

One of your situations
• My existing belief:
• + My existing action:
• Result: guilt

Can you change your belief to reduce your guilt?
• New belief:
• + Existing action:
• Result: no guilt

Or you change your action to reduce your guilt?
• Existing belief:
• New action:
• Result: no guilt

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